Sometimes life hits you like a ton of bricks….

Sometimes life doesn’t go as expected. And sometimes something routine can turn into something complicated. When it does, it turns your whole world on its end and you find yourself battling through waves of emotions trying to stay strong. That’s where I am right now, trying to stay strong. On Friday, my Dad went into the hospital to have surgery on his neck to have some disks fused together. He has had this procedure before; it is supposed to help with his chronic pain. It works, but only temporarily. This time his doctor recommended he have a different procedure done, a replacement that would correct his problems and leave him pain free. His insurance company denied it; they called it experimental even though that doctor alone had preformed it hundreds of times. My father appealed the denial three times and lost each time, leaving him no choice but to have the disk fusion done instead. This procedure, not only is temporary but has a four week recovery time so my father was not very happy to be having it done but when faced with the alternative he really had no other choice.

During the procedure on Friday there were some complications. I am not sure exactly what happened (this is all second hand from my Mom) but about halfway through they were unable to move forward in the process so they had to do some unplanned drilling in order to complete the procedure. He ended up spending the entire day in surgery. Once he was in the recovery room blood began to pool in the area where he had the procedure and it started to crush my father’s trachea. He stopped breathing while in recovery, coded on the table, and they had to put in a breathing tube in immediately. The surgeon then went into his neck to open up the repaired area to allow it to bleed out and then proceeded to sedate him. They told my mom that they wanted to keep him unconscious until Monday so that way he wouldn’t risk knocking out the breathing tube. The doctor’s put him on steroids to reduce the swelling in his trachea and seemed optimistic that they would be able to remove the breathing tube after a few days of rest.

Saturday morning my father woke up out of his sedation and was asking the nurse (by writing them down) about all sorts of random stuff none of which was what was going on with him; all about my mom. They said his blood pressure got too high and they had to give him some meds and then they gave him some stronger sedation so he wouldn’t wake up again. The doctor’s were planning on bringing in a throat specialist to evaluate his condition. The plan was to take him into the OR today to put in a scope to see how the swelling in his throat was doing. If it had gone down they would remove the breathing tube. They even told my Mom that he could be home as early as Tuesday. Everything seemed to be looking up.

This morning they had him scheduled to go to the OR at 11am. Mom went off to the hospital but they were unable to remove the breathing tube. The specialist wanted to see if he could sustain breathing on his own so they lowered the machine to see if he could breathe independent of it and unfortunately he wasn’t getting enough oxygen so they canceled the procedure for the day. They weren’t going to remove the tube only to have to put it back in after he stopped breathing. So now the plan is to reevaluate tomorrow and hopefully in the next day or two he will be strong enough to breathe on his own and will be off the machine. If I know anything about my Dad it is that he is a fighter and will pull through this soon. I wish I could be there with him. It is times like this when I hate living so far away from my parents.

I just wanted to let you in on what has been going on with me lately. It’s been a rough weekend and I just needed to let go of some of the fears and anxiousness I had and writing about it really helps. I have other stuff I want to share with you, weigh in results, monthly goals, measurements, but it all seems trivial right now. I will be back soon with more updates but until then, thanks for reading!


August 1, 2011. Tags: , , . Life.


  1. The Busy Crab replied:

    Dacia — I’ll keep your Dad, you and your family in my thoughts. Here’s hoping that the next several days bring news of improvement!

  2. Simply Sidney replied:

    oh my Dacia, I understand how you must fell. Of course your father, you and your family will be in our prayers. I know it is hard right now, but try and trust in the care he is getting. You can be sure he is feeling the love you’re sending him, that’s part of how he gets all his power!!

  3. Kristen Thomas replied:

    Sorry to hear about your dad. Family comes first and it must be hard to not be there.

  4. infertilityawakening replied:

    I am so sorry to hear that you and your family are going through this. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. I too live far from my parents and understand the heartache of not being able to be right there during a crisis. There is no doubt in my mind however that your Dad feels you there with him, and that he knows how much you care.

  5. jamesandjax replied:

    Oh Dacia, I’m so sorry your family is going through this. It’s awful. But you are right, your dad is such a fighter! He is strong and he will get through this.

    Can you fly out for the weekend, if it will make you feel any better? You could stay with me, if you want. I could get you from the airport & take you to see your dad. We have Jax’s birthday party Sunday, but that’s all we have going on this weekend.

  6. jakennicksmomma replied:

    I have been keeping your family in our thoughts and prayers.

  7. Ginger replied:

    I am very sorry to hear about your Dad and will pray for you and your family.

  8. workingonthemindbodyandspirit replied:

    I’m so sorry for you and your family. I too, live a good ways away from my family and it’s always really hard when something is wrong. I also hate that the insurance company did that, they can really suck sometimes.
    Thoughts and prayers for you.

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